What Do I Really Want to Do with My Life?

Most of those I work with are at what we call a “crossroads” in life. They are preparing for their future but have a number of options to consider. How can one be sure to take the right path?

First and foremost, you must know yourself.  Aristotle said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”  What is it that will bring you the most joy while also giving you the most opportunity to impact and benefit others? These are key questions.  Answering them will help you discover life direction.

If you have heard me speak, I often refer to an exercise called, “The Seven Stories.” This exercise was developed by Kate Wendleton to help people better understand their motivations.   Here is what she suggests:

1. Write down “Seven Stories” or “Experiences” from your life. These seven should be experiences in which:
   1. You felt you did something well
   2. You enjoyed doing it
   3. You obtained a sense of accomplishment from it
   4. Try to write about experiences that involve different areas of life, if possible: personal life, school, volunteering, work etc.  If you are young and can’t think of seven, try to think of three-five.  Be as specific as possible.
   5. Prioritize the experiences. Which ones really stand out in your mind?
   6. After you have written the stories and prioritized them write down the following:
      1. What role did you play in the story?
      2. What type of environment were you in (school, public, work, volunteering etc)?
      3. Who were the others involved in the story? Did you do it alone or with others?
      4. What made you good at what you did? What skills did you use in your story?

Take some time to really reflect on your stories, seeking to determine common themes that emerge within the stories.  These are your unique motivations/passions.  Invite a close friend or family member to also read and analyze your stories. Sometimes another person can see things we miss.

Finally, once complete, use these discoveries about yourself to help you choose things like major in school, career choices, and even volunteering opportunities.  CHOOSE to MAKE experiences where you know you will be most fulfilled while also bringing the most good to others.

Knowing yourself is the most important step in finding direction in life.  This exercise is a great way to get you started.